It took a while, but I finally found a moment to meditate!
During a well-deserved summer vacation or on your Sunday off, you have all the time in the world, but you still can't manage to do nothing for twenty minutes while doing nothing.
Why is meditating more difficult when you are not so busy?
Doing something on a day when you are busy with everything is of course difficult. Things like housework, taking the children to school, work, etc. And those are things that just have to be done and yield something. When you meditate, you do nothing... nothing at all. So you don't actually gain anything from that. So if you're complaining that you should be able to do this but you messed up: relax... You're human!
Doing nothing is culturally a bit “not done”. We want to get as much out of life as possible. “You don't live to work, you work to live!”
That invisible distinction between work and life can break if you no longer work and have to “live as much as possible”. So, relax.… You're human!
Maybe you hate not being productive and expect to get the same feeling from meditating. But realize that doing nothing in meditation can feel very different from messing around in the house. It is actually interesting to experience the difference. Because even if you don't do much in a day, you can unconsciously spend a lot of your brain busy planning and trying and wanting and not wanting and feeling guilty and ashamed and judging yourself.
My experience is that when I meditate on relaxed, quiet days, I feel a big difference. There is a pressure off me when I meditate because I don't have to get anything out of life for a while. I unknowingly place a lot of expectations on myself.
Besides the fact that doing nothing is culturally a bit “not done”, doing nothing also makes it tangible that our self-esteem is strongly linked to productivity. If you don't “create” anything, who are you? Or, why am I even alive? Sounds intense, right?!
We unconsciously have a large to-do list for ourselves. Only when we have done all these things can we finally relax. Can you allow yourself to meditate if you haven't done anything yet today?
I would give it a try anyway...
Meditate tip: https://meditationmoments.nl/
Bernd Lösing
Enforce Master Trainer
bernd@enforce.nl
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